tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2618685271512418876.post3304551572771409400..comments2023-10-11T09:36:37.977-04:00Comments on Almost There: The Forbidden Topicbobbiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00658103343742852411noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2618685271512418876.post-69448813233783562912009-01-07T21:58:00.000-05:002009-01-07T21:58:00.000-05:00Bobbie, if I had known I was going to live this lo...Bobbie, if I had known I was going to live this long, I would have taken better care of myself. LOL I remember when my Mother was 71 (my age now) I thought she was soooooo old. Why is it...old is always about 25 years older than you are? When will I be old?Clara....in TNhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07111947670369158947noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2618685271512418876.post-86095503013147389882009-01-07T18:19:00.000-05:002009-01-07T18:19:00.000-05:00Bobbie, I have to say that I appreciate you being ...Bobbie, I have to say that I appreciate you being so open and honest about this subject. I've been in 3 car accidents and have come a little too close to edge a few times myself. My nana and I were able to talk calmly about this subject. I realize it will happen to all of us. None of us escapes. I had my children born at home and saw my Nana die peacefull there with her family at her bedside. Modern society protects us from birth and death, things that used to happen in the bosom of the family. You won't scare me off if you want to talk about it. I know that someday I will get there too. I'm glad you are alive for now. I know you will value each moment you are given.Kathie Brownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10377224759599266209noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2618685271512418876.post-17772656827341705032009-01-07T02:54:00.000-05:002009-01-07T02:54:00.000-05:00You've really struck a chord with this post, Bobbi...You've really struck a chord with this post, Bobbie. My mother is forever saying things like, "I won't need any more clothes because I've got enough until I die." "I don't need another pan because I won't be around to use a new one very much." You're right though... it's not being morbid. It's just a fact she's trying to tell me.<BR/><BR/>I was looking at photos of a class reunion somebody sent me and was shocked at how old my classmates looked. That was really quite startling. That was my generation. That was me. Gosh.Kayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07461569436322815787noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2618685271512418876.post-22160955319664234522009-01-06T12:46:00.000-05:002009-01-06T12:46:00.000-05:00I'm with you Bobbie, it just makes sense to me...p...I'm with you Bobbie, it just makes sense to me...perhaps it's because I don't have children. I feel like my spouse and I should have our burial plans in place so that the responsibility doesn't fall on someone we love.Shellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10167980498731684457noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2618685271512418876.post-7723911348438252792009-01-06T11:40:00.000-05:002009-01-06T11:40:00.000-05:00It's a part of life and inevitable. I think the fe...It's a part of life and inevitable. I think the fear of dying and aging is what makes our younger generation uncomfortable with the speak...<BR/><BR/>It is what is though.<BR/><BR/>You have endured and you are entitled to speak of your future.Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02285327851504685807noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2618685271512418876.post-24535366931551541152009-01-06T06:43:00.000-05:002009-01-06T06:43:00.000-05:00This reminds me of an old neighbour of mine who of...This reminds me of an old neighbour of mine who often talked like this as she aged. Many a sentence began, "God willing, if I'm here next year." A neighbour down the street, who at ninety years now, has slowed down his step, and his slogan seems to have become one of the need not to replace many things anymore for as he says, "..this will see me out". All food for thought.me ann my camerahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06083671096943783249noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2618685271512418876.post-10214006401833070192009-01-06T04:35:00.000-05:002009-01-06T04:35:00.000-05:00Dear Bobbie,You speak with a deep dignity and wisd...Dear Bobbie,<BR/><BR/>You speak with a deep dignity and wisdom.<BR/><BR/>I think it was John Quincy Adams who once talked about his body as a house from which he would have to move out of...<BR/><BR/>To accept the reality of death is one of lifes greatest challenges.<BR/><BR/>And yet that acceptance allows us to live without regret.<BR/><BR/>Blessings of peace to you friend,<BR/><BR/>MaithriMaithrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17039947095595430108noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2618685271512418876.post-92009525030609825932009-01-05T22:09:00.000-05:002009-01-05T22:09:00.000-05:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2618685271512418876.post-87955730950730973102009-01-05T21:26:00.000-05:002009-01-05T21:26:00.000-05:00My kids hate when I talk about it. My daughter al...My kids hate when I talk about it. My daughter always says, don't say that mom! I think you have to talk about realistic things like death.Marlahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12450001180027863012noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2618685271512418876.post-1513321730828908682009-01-05T20:56:00.000-05:002009-01-05T20:56:00.000-05:00Hi Bobbie, I have been reading your blog for a whi...Hi Bobbie, I have been reading your blog for a while now and do enjoy it. we see the world much in the same way.<BR/> Talking about death is easy for me, but I know it makes my kids uncomfortable.<BR/>SueMomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15708010694158542241noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2618685271512418876.post-24833020187773257622009-01-05T20:06:00.000-05:002009-01-05T20:06:00.000-05:00My mom and dad BOTH talk like this and they're onl...My mom and dad BOTH talk like this and they're only 65ish. It drives me nuts! My mom is usually using it as a form of guilt tripping ... as in, "Some day soon I'll be gone and then you can do whatever you want with this sofa that you don't like." *sigh*<BR/><BR/>I guess I just need some perspective on it. Thanks for offering yours!KGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10236206776336550381noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2618685271512418876.post-21662052635577113402009-01-05T15:23:00.000-05:002009-01-05T15:23:00.000-05:00Great perspective, Bobbie. As I'm getting a bit ol...Great perspective, Bobbie. As I'm getting a bit older too I occasionally think along these lines. When you're young, you can envision yourself witnessing an event that's 30 or more years in the future, like a comet or a significant date, like 1984. Now I sometimes do a quick mental arithmetic when something like that is mentioned. Yes, maybe that one, but definitely not that other one! It's amusing in a weird kind of way!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2618685271512418876.post-84536463634327292452009-01-05T13:56:00.000-05:002009-01-05T13:56:00.000-05:00hi Bobbie..I know what you mean...well i am 52 and...hi Bobbie..<BR/>I know what you mean...well i am 52 and i am starting to feel the aging...wake up with stiff joints..etc<BR/>but I look at my parents..who are 79 and I wonder how they feel? my mother keeps a file folder of obituaries of friends and family..so she can remember who passed and when.<BR/>I wonder how it feels when you know you have lived most of your life?<BR/>So keep blogging Bobbie..you have allot of friends here!Dawn Finehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08320576787003821586noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2618685271512418876.post-12835430877253928992009-01-05T13:27:00.000-05:002009-01-05T13:27:00.000-05:00My mother-in-law wouldn't discuss any aspect of de...My mother-in-law wouldn't discuss any aspect of death because she feared she was bringing it on herself if she did. That made for her dying intestate and it was bad all around. Older people should be willing to discuss their deaths and what should happen after - otherwise - how will we know?kenjuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07342414519714356343noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2618685271512418876.post-6515652236650264282009-01-05T12:33:00.000-05:002009-01-05T12:33:00.000-05:00I'll admit I don't like it when my parents or moth...I'll admit I don't like it when my parents or mother-in-law talk about their soon dying, but I try to just listen and keep quiet.<BR/>I believe it is very healthy to talk about it Bobbie, so thank you for sharing,<BR/>; )dianasfaria.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10488357854017358868noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2618685271512418876.post-49819559488298534912009-01-05T09:34:00.000-05:002009-01-05T09:34:00.000-05:00So true, Bobbie. I went through this with my dad ...So true, Bobbie. I went through this with my dad and elderly family members, but it would pass and we'd be back to the more pleasant things that life holds. Now, I find myself occasionally making such statements.<BR/><BR/>Just the other day, I asked my mom when I started to look like a fat Basset Hound, complete with jowls and wrinkles... we had a good laugh, since I grew up with a Basset and used to call her my sister, when I was young.<BR/><BR/>Thanks for the perspective. /DebAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com