Showing posts with label Jack. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Jack. Show all posts

Wednesday, November 12, 2008

Reminiscence


Well, here I go again. Yesterday I was reading Gord Harrison's blog, It Strikes Me Funny, and as I was leaving a comment I got to thinking about old times, and old friends. He asked about small pleasures. I recalled the many times I was playing with my friend, Jack, and we would decide we needed a little treat. We both loved those big Hershey bars of milk chocolate. (They were considerably bigger in those days than they are now.) Jack always wanted to go to his mom for candy, because she always gave us a whole strip of those little squares. My mom only gave us two squares each. But she always gave us saltine crackers too, to "take the dark brown taste out of your mouth". I still love a couple of squares of chocolate on a saltine.

Maybe it was because Jack's mom had three boys. My mom had two girls and a boy, and I was the youngest by eleven years, so might as well have been an only child. My mom was always worrying about stupid things like safety and health. Jack's mom sort of took the attitude that what happens, happens, and we'll worry about it afte
r it's happened.

Our houses were very similar. At our house, we'd go up into the attic to play sometimes. We'd open boxes and trunks, and play with various things we would discover. Our attic was as spotlessly clean as the rest of my mother's house, and there was a safety railing around the stairwell. But I liked playing in Jack's attic. It was dark and dusty and dirty. The stairwell came up in the middle of the floor, with no railing, so we could play cops and robbers, and jump from one "rooftop" to another over that stairwell when the chase was on. We only fell down it a few times, and I only sprained my wrist once. Not bad.

Out of sight of my house, we climbed trees together, and jum
ped off the garage roof, and went down the sewer after a stray ball, and explored the woods nearby. There were some caves, and a stream with an old rotting bridge. And there was a quarry not too far away. I could scale the walls of the quarry in nothing flat. My mom would have fainted if she'd seen me.

I was pretty good at getting dirty. I mean really dirty! My mother was crazy clean. The only place in our house that was dirty was the coal bin in the basement. And yes, I managed to get into that too. When coal was delivered, the man dragged a long chute from the truck to the little window in the coal bin. When he was done and went into the house for his payment, before he put the chute back, Jack and I would climb into the window and slide down the pile of coal to the basement floor, run up the steps, and repeat this as often as time allowed. When the man came back he'd always chase us, but I think he left the chute there for us on purpose.

Gee! It's been a long time since I climbed a tree or explored a cave - or slid down a coal pile.

Tuesday, July 29, 2008

Dear Hearts and Gentle People


I miss Jack. I knew him literally from the day I was born. Hadn't seen him of course, since the 50's. Corresponded sporadically. In very recent years it was only brief notes, often written to me by his dear friend, due to his Parkinson's Disease. And still more recently, only emails from that friend - not from him at all. But I knew he was there, in New York. And now he's gone.


I miss my sister, too. I miss her terribly. It's been eight years. I still have the impulse to turn up Whildane Avenue as I pass by. I want to sit with her as she busies herself with knitting needles or crochet hook, pausing to look out her window each time someone walks or drives by. She always wanted to know what was going on in her neighborhood.


I miss my friend, Josephine, also a New Yorker. I didn't see her often when she was alive. But again - I knew she was there. It has been many years since Jo left us. Still, when something important to the family is happening, or I hear really good news, I instinctively reach for the phone to share it with her.


Most of all, even after thirty-two years, I miss Ralph. People have often asked why I never remarried. It always surprises me a little when they ask. I guess, even now, I still feel married - sort of. There was a day in 1982 - I remember it clearly. I even remember exactly where I was at that moment - when I suddenly realized that I wasn't married any longer. As a matter of fact, it was my 25th wedding anniversary, and Ralph had died seven years earlier. I took off my wedding ring that day. But that didn't really make a difference. Inside the ring was the word Always. He was my rock. He was my life. I still feel married fifty years after our wedding day.


We don't really lose people to death, do we? They remain with us forever.

Saturday, June 7, 2008

JACK






















John Kenneth Halbert, M.M.

February 29, 1932 - June 6, 2008








National Parkinson's Foundation






Saturday, March 8, 2008

Another Reason to Love Blogging



Remember, back on February 29, when I wished my friend, Jack, a happy birthday? But I said that he would not see the blog entry, because he "doesn't do computers". Well, he saw it!

Let's see if I've got this right. Maryknoll's "Community Outreach Coordinator" saw it. From there it was sent to the Council Secretariat Supervisor, who figured out it might be for Jack, known to them as Father John, of course. Yea!!

He says he celebrated with a birthday dinner with friends.

Jack's friend, Debbie, who types letters for him, also has a computer, and between us we can probably communicate with him a bit more often than I have in the past. I'm so grateful to all those who had a hand in passing along my birthday message, and especially to Debbie. Perhaps she and I will also become friends. That would be nice. I've sent her my url of course.

So - Hi there, Jack! Hi, Debbie! And thanks to Blogger. You did us a favor.

Friday, February 29, 2008

Happy Birthday


Happy Birthday to all of the leap year babies out there.


And a very special birthday wish to my dear friend, Jack. Our birthdays are only about two weeks apart, but he is celebrating his 19th today, while I am about to turn 76. How could that happen? Not fair!


We started life together back in 1932 in Pennsylvania. We shared some great adventures in our early years. Then we went our separate ways. Eventually we got back in touch.


Jack started his studies at Villanova, but left there to become a Maryknoll priest. He spent some years in his "parish" in the jungles of El Salvador. When he finally returned to this country, he served as Vicar General at Maryknoll for a while, and later as president of their university.


Jack won't be able to see this blog post. He doesn't do computers any more. He has been retired for some time, and now suffers from Parkinson's disease. We still keep in touch as best we can. He sends me a note occasionally, when someone types it for him. I always look first for the signature. He manages "Jack" at the end of the note, though it grows more shakey each time.


Love you, Jack. God bless. And Happy Birthday!